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Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z var, evet. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kimsenin kimseyi g\u00f6rmedi\u011fi bir d\u00f6nemde ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Kimsenin kimseye bakmad\u0131\u011f\u0131, kimseyi dinlemedi\u011fi, umursamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00f6nemde ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Yan\u0131m\u0131zdan insanlar ge\u00e7iyor, yard\u0131mlar\u0131na ihtiya\u00e7 duyuyor; sesleniyoruz. Kimi duymuyor, kimi duymazdan geliyor, kimiyse bak\u0131p yoluna devam ediyor. Ve biz, ba\u011flan\u0131yoruz. Tutundu\u011fumuz \u015fey ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k oluyor. \u0130nsanlar bize s\u0131rt\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6nd\u00fck\u00e7e, biz, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 mahvedecek olgulara ba\u011flan\u0131yoruz.<\/p>\n
Kimi ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k, kendimizi g\u00f6stermek i\u00e7in, kimiyse ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6rmedi\u011fi, \u201cbizi\u201d, biz de g\u00f6rmek istemedi\u011fimiz i\u00e7in. Ama her ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k ayn\u0131 k\u00f6ke delicesine tutunuyor; sevgisizlik. \u00d6yle bir tutunuyor ki hem de kopar\u0131p atmaya kalksak, can\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7\u0131kacak sanki. Halbuki can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, bu ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131yor, g\u00f6rm\u00fcyoruz; insanlar\u0131n bizi g\u00f6rmedi\u011finden daha fazla hem de.<\/p>\n
Yeni bir \u015fey yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, hayat\u0131n\u0131za bir \u015fey ya da bir insan ekleyece\u011finiz o andan tam bir saniye \u00f6ncesinde, ne hissetti\u011finize hi\u00e7 odakland\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131? Kocaman-bir-bo\u015fluk. Ve o bo\u015flu\u011fun bir\u00e7ok nedeni vard\u0131r: umutsuzluk, i\u015fsizlik, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, d\u0131\u015flanma, gelecek kayg\u0131s\u0131, terk edilme, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131. Her ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n k\u00f6keninde yatan as\u0131l neden, bo\u015fluktur, sevgisizli\u011fin getirdi\u011fi bo\u015fluk. Ve bo\u015fluklar, onlar\u0131 doldurmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131 tetikler; e\u011fer o bo\u015fluklar\u0131, yanl\u0131\u015f \u015feylerle doldurursak.<\/p>\n
Bir bo\u015flu\u011fu, hayal edebilece\u011fimizden \u00e7ok daha fazla \u015fey doldurabilir. Sadece sigara, alkol, uyu\u015fturucu ya da seks olmas\u0131 gerekmiyor. Tak\u0131nt\u0131 haline getirdi\u011fimiz bir arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131z, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmemek i\u00e7in tutundu\u011fumuz i\u015fimiz, kendi hayat\u0131m\u0131zdan ka\u00e7mak i\u00e7in kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hayatlar\u0131; diziler ve dedikodu, asl\u0131nda tek ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bunlar oldu\u011funa kendimizi ikna ederek ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z evler, arabalar, e\u015fyalar, giysiler ve \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\nBa\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k farkl\u0131 d\u00f6nemlerde kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kabiliyor<\/p><\/div>\n
Bir kad\u0131n, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 yok saymak i\u00e7in \u00e7ocu\u011funa bile ba\u011flanabilir. Bir \u00e7ocuk ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131lardan korunmak i\u00e7in duygusuzlu\u011fa ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olabilir mesela. Bir dede ya\u015flanmaktan korktu\u011fu i\u00e7in ge\u00e7mi\u015finin ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131s\u0131 olurken, gencecik bir k\u0131z gelece\u011finin ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131s\u0131 olup bu g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc yok sayabilir. \u00c7ok zengin olduklar\u0131 i\u00e7in ailesi de dahil olmak \u00fczere, etraf\u0131ndaki herkes taraf\u0131ndan mutlu oldu\u011fu san\u0131lan bir ergen, as\u0131l istedi\u011fi \u015feyin ilgi ve sevgi oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steremedi\u011fi i\u00e7in, \u00f6fkesinin ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131s\u0131 olabilir mesela. Ya da daha babas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6rnek alacak kadar onu tan\u0131yamayan ufac\u0131k bir erkek \u00e7ocu\u011fu, babas\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmenin ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bast\u0131rmak i\u00e7in, bulabildi\u011fi her \u015feye sar\u0131lman\u0131n ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131s\u0131 olabilir\u2026<\/p>\n
Bir \u015feye ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in, o \u015feyin \u00fc\u00e7 boyutlu olmas\u0131na gerek yok. \u0130nsanlar g\u00f6rmediklerine de ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olabilirler. G\u00f6rmedikleri halde, ya\u015famak i\u00e7in ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 olan te\u015fviki onlardan alabilirler. Ve bazen bunlar o kadar soyut kavramlard\u0131r ki, en yak\u0131nlar\u0131 bile bunu fark edemez. E\u011fer fark edebilselerdi, kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131ndakinin ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olmas\u0131na gerek kalmazd\u0131 zaten.<\/p>\n
Bazense durum bu kadar komplike de\u011fildir. Sadece genetiktir baz\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar. Kendisi ya da e\u015fi uyu\u015fturucu ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131s\u0131 olan bir annenin karn\u0131ndaki bebek de, bir uyu\u015fturucu ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131s\u0131 olarak do\u011fabilir elbet. Bunun i\u00e7in onu kim su\u00e7layabilir? Ya da hiperaktivitesi olan bir ki\u015fi, hayat\u0131n temposuna uyum sa\u011flayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, artan dakikalar\u0131n\u0131 doldurarak di\u011fer insanlara yeti\u015fmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsa; bunun i\u00e7in kim yarg\u0131layacak onu?<\/p>\n
Peki etraf\u0131m\u0131zda bu kadar \u00e7ok \u015fey olurken, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her saniye bize, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olmak i\u00e7in yeni bir neden ve olanak sunarken; t\u00fcm bu sahte ve ge\u00e7ici ba\u011flardan nas\u0131l s\u0131yr\u0131labilir can\u0131m\u0131z? Bedenlerimizi nas\u0131l koruyabiliriz bunlardan? Ya ruhlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131? Sonsuzlu\u011fumuzu nas\u0131l kurtarabiliriz ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n elinden? Belki de ilk ad\u0131m \u015funu kabul etmektir: biz, yapamay\u0131z.<\/p>\n
\u0130nsanlar olarak baz\u0131 \u015feyleri tek ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za yapmaya g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fcz yok. Yard\u0131ma ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z var. Bedenimizi ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klardan kurtarabilecek d\u00fcnyasal yard\u0131m olanaklar\u0131 var elbet. Ama ya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimiz ve ruhumuz? Ruhumuzu, en b\u00fcy\u00fck ve her an ensemizde olan g\u00fcnah ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kim kurtaracak? Bize kim yard\u0131m edecek?<\/p>\n
Ondan ba\u015fka kimse, ruhlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kurtulu\u015fu ve \u00f6zg\u00fcr olu\u015fu i\u00e7in bizlere yard\u0131m edemez. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc O, bu d\u00fcnyaya geldi. S\u00f6z, bizim u\u011frumuza insan oldu ve aram\u0131zda ya\u015fad\u0131. G\u00fcnaha ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 bir bedende, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 33 y\u0131l boyunca tek bir g\u00fcnah bile i\u015flemedi. Denendi, ama g\u00fcnah i\u015flemedi. Kutsald\u0131 evet, ama en az bizimkiler kadar da kusurlu bir bedende ya\u015fad\u0131. Yine de ak, pak, g\u00fcnahs\u0131z \u00f6ld\u00fc ve dirildi. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc daha dedikodu yapmak kadar basit bir ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131ktan bile, kendi g\u00fcc\u00fcyle kurtulamayan biz insanlar\u0131n, g\u00fcnah denen en b\u00fcy\u00fck ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131ktan kurtulmaya ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131. Ve bizi, O\u2019ndan ba\u015fkas\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcr k\u0131lamazd\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc O g\u00fcnahl\u0131 bir bedende, tek bir g\u00fcnah bile i\u015flemeyen tek insano\u011fluydu.<\/p>\n
E\u011fer \u0130sa Mesih\u2019in; d\u0131\u015flanma, ac\u0131, terk edilme, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k gibi duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131; a\u00e7l\u0131k, susuzluk, \u015fiddet gibi \u00e7aresizliklerimizi anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsak; \u0130ncil\u2019i a\u00e7\u0131p okuyal\u0131m derim. E\u011fer, \u2018\u2019O benim neler ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 anlayamaz\u2019\u2019 diyorsak, \u0130sa Mesih hakk\u0131nda yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015f \u015fu s\u00f6zlere bi\u2019 g\u00f6z gezdirelim: \u2018\u2019O RAB\u2019bin \u00f6n\u00fcnde bir fidan gibi, kurak yerdeki k\u00f6k gibi b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc.<\/em>\u00a0Bak\u0131lacak bi\u00e7imden, g\u00fczellikten yoksundu. G\u00f6nl\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc \u00e7eken bir g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc de yoktu. \u0130nsanlarca hor g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc, yapayaln\u0131z b\u0131rak\u0131ld\u0131. Ac\u0131lar adam\u0131yd\u0131, hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 yak\u0131ndan tan\u0131d\u0131. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n y\u00fcz \u00e7evirdi\u011fi biri gibi hor g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc, O\u2019na de\u011fer vermedik. Asl\u0131nda hastal\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 O \u00fcstlendi, ac\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 O y\u00fcklendi. Bizse Tanr\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan cezaland\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, vurulup ezildi\u011fini sand\u0131k. Oysa, bizim isyanlar\u0131m\u0131z y\u00fcz\u00fcnden O\u2019nun bedeni de\u015fildi, bizim su\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z y\u00fcz\u00fcnden o eziyet \u00e7ekti. Esenli\u011fimiz i\u00e7in gerekli olan ceza O\u2019na verildi. Bizler O\u2019nun yaralar\u0131yla \u015fifa bulduk. Hepimiz koyun gibi yoldan sapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131k, her birimiz kendi yoluna d\u00f6nd\u00fc. Yine de RAB hepimizin cezas\u0131n\u0131 O\u2019na y\u00fckledi.\u2019\u2019 (Ye\u015faya 53:26)<\/p>\n \u0130sa Mesih bizim ac\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anl\u0131yor ve neden bir \u015feylere b\u00f6ylesine ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 oldu\u011fumuzu da biliyor. Y\u00fcreklerimizin derinlerinde yatan ve daha bizim bile fark etmedi\u011fimiz ya da dile getiremedi\u011fimiz; kendimize bile s\u00f6yleyemedi\u011fimiz ac\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Onlara dokunmak ve \u015fifa vermek istiyor.<\/p>\n Kabul etsek de etmesek de, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z; iyile\u015fmeye ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011fumuz bedensel ya da ruhsal yaralar\u0131m\u0131zdan kaynaklan\u0131yor. Ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z d\u00fcnyasal yard\u0131mlar ne kadar etkili olursa olsun, bu yard\u0131mlar ruhumuzu g\u00fcnah ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kurtaramaz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sadece bir saniye i\u00e7erisinde kafam\u0131zdan ge\u00e7irdi\u011fimiz tek bir yanl\u0131\u015f d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce bile, g\u00fcnaht\u0131r. Ve biz insanlar, bu basit g\u00fcnah\u0131 bile g\u00fcnde binlerce kez i\u015fliyoruz. Kim d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini bu dengi dizginleyebilir ki?<\/p>\n Pavlus\u2019un Romal\u0131lar\u2019a ve hepimize yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 mektubundaki, \u2018\u2019Bu \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n gidi\u015fine uymay\u0131n; bunun yerine, Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n iyi, be\u011fenilir ve yetkin iste\u011finin ne oldu\u011funu ay\u0131rt edebilmek i\u00e7in d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncenizin yenilenmesiyle de\u011fi\u015fin.<\/em>\u2019\u2019 (Romal\u0131lar 12:2) s\u00f6zlerini kim kendi g\u00fcc\u00fcyle yerine getirebilir?<\/p>\n \u0130\u015fte bu y\u00fczden bizi her t\u00fcrl\u00fc ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00f6zg\u00fcr k\u0131lacak, kurtaracak, bize yard\u0131m edecek ve \u00fcstesinden gelme g\u00fcc\u00fc verecek Rab Tanr\u0131\u2019m\u0131zla bar\u0131\u015fmaya ve bu g\u00fcc\u00fc O\u2019ndan almaya ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z var. Mesih bizim Tanr\u0131 ile olan bar\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u2018\u2019B\u00f6ylece imanla akland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za g\u00f6re, Rabbimiz \u0130sa Mesih sayesinde Tanr\u0131\u2019yla bar\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f oluyoruz<\/em>.\u2019\u2019 (Romal\u0131lar 5:1)<\/p>\n Tanr\u0131\u2019yla bar\u0131\u015fmaya ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z var. Bedensel, zihinsel ve ruhsal yaralar\u0131m\u0131zdan; t\u00fcm bunlar\u0131n neden oldu\u011fu ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan bizi ancak O kurtarabilir. Tanr\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k kavram\u0131n\u0131 yok edebilir. 2. Korintliler 10:6 der ki: \u2018\u2019Mesih\u2019e t\u00fcm\u00fcyle ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 oldu\u011funuz zaman, O\u2019na ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olmayan her eylemi cezaland\u0131rmaya haz\u0131r olaca\u011f\u0131z<\/em>.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n B\u00f6ylece biliriz ki, kurtulu\u015fumu sa\u011flayacak olan tek ki\u015fi olan Mesih\u2019e ba\u011fland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, O\u2019na ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 olmayan her eylemi; yani bize zarar veren her ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yenece\u011fiz. Bo\u015flu\u011fa neden olan sevgisizli\u011fimizi, O\u2019nun sonsuz sevgisi dolduracak ve art\u0131k o bo\u015fluklar\u0131 ge\u00e7ici ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klarla doldurmak zorunda kalmayaca\u011f\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n sevgisi kalplerimize girince, bizi i\u00e7ten ve derin bir \u015fekilde \u00f6yle bir saracak ki, t\u00fcm d\u00fcnya bizi sevmedi\u011finde bile; en sevilen gibi hissedece\u011fiz.<\/p>\n O\u2019nun sevgisi, hepimize yeter ve t\u00fcm bo\u015fluklar\u0131 doldurarak ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 en derinden k\u0131rar. Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klardan \u00f6zg\u00fcr bir hayat i\u00e7in gereken tek \u015fey, y\u00fcre\u011fimize Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n sonsuz sevgisini almakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\nBize Kim Yard\u0131m Edebilir?<\/h3>\n
Tanr\u0131\u2019yla Bar\u0131\u015fmak<\/h3>\n